Solomon Buchi: your wife should be your next of kin

Solomon Buchi, a Nigerian content creator and life coach has stated categorically that a man’s wife should be his next of kin and not his mother. He said a man’s wife’s name should be the one on the assets of the man not any other person.

He was reacting to viral news that Paris Saint-Germain star Achraf Hakimi has registered all his properties in his mother’s name. The news came to the public domain after reports that his wife Hiba Abouk had filed for divorce.

After the news broke, the Morocco defender has been roundedly praised by men for his smartness. Many have called the 36-year-old actor and mother of two a gold digger for wanting half of the 24-year-old’s properties.

But Solomon Buchi thinks otherwise as he questions the reason why a man would even settle with a woman he can’t trust. He said marriage makes the two one and “If you can’t a woman with your riches, don’t marry her”.

“Your next of kin should be your wife not your mother. Your assets should have your wife’s name on them too. This is biblical marriage; you have become one in Holy Matrimony. If you can’t trust a woman with your riches, don’t marry her. Why marry who you don’t trust with your ALL? This will probably get a lot of pushback from the red-pilled movement, because of the recent Hakimi’s case: a successful footballer whose wife filed for divorce and division of his assets and properties, only to discover that he put all his fortunes in his mother’s name.

“This will probably get a lot of pushback from the red-pilled movement, because of the recent Hakimi’s case: a successful footballer whose wife filed for divorce and division of his assets and properties, only to discover that he put all his fortunes in his mother’s name. Hence, she has nothing to gain from the incentivized western divorce culture. This seems pragmatic, but it is not right and ideal.

And while he admitted that there are women who marry with the intention of looting their rich husbands’ properties through a divorce, it is not right to correct a wrong with another. He said the scriptures even support that a man and his wife must be one so it should be so.

“I can imagine the mammoth defense that some mummy’s boys will get today. Putting all your fortunes to your mom’s name as a married man is off. It shouldn’t be so. And yes, women who also marry rich men, with intentions to incentivize the marriage through later divorce are wrong too, but we can’t correct a wrong with a wrong. Literally, the scriptures states that a man needs to leave his father and mother to be married.

“This means a re-prioritization: after marriage, your wife becomes your number one. Your mother is still your mother, but you’re not one with her, she’s one with your dad. Respect them, but your immediate priority is your wife, and everything about you, she must have access to. As much as these sad things happen, I’m trying to reconcile us to how things should be. Christian men shouldn’t be thinking in this manner: willing all you have to your mom as a married man. Nah.

Also, he advised men to rather put their time into proper research so that they don’t marry the wrong person. He added that what Hakimi did does not mean it is right while adding that for Christian marriage, there is no greed as it encourages generosity.

“And men, do your due diligence before you marry. If you can’t trust her, don’t marry her, because marriage without trust is like roommates living together. Hakimi did it doesn’t make it right. Don’t start off wrong. Things still work the right way. Christian marriage is not a place to fight to protect; it’s a place to give. Something must give. Something must be at risk. We don’t truly love, if we aren’t risking anything.”